Nyah – 11 month update

You guys, how did this happen?! How do I have an almost ONE YEAR OLD??? I’ve had several drafts of monthly updates here, and have missed posting them because another month has already flown by!

11 months old

Milestones:

  • Started crawling at the Temecula Wine & Hot Air Balloon Festival – trying to get Liam’s ribbon fries! – 8 months
  • Stood unassisted with a big smile on her face while playing with Liam and Sprinkles the zebra. 10 months
  • Clapped for the first time while we were eating dinner, also a first – spaghetti! 8/26/2017 (11 months)

Nyah is wearing 12 month clothes, and is around 29″ tall. She loves playing churro/ice cream cart with Liam and riding on Sprinkles the Zebra. She has transitioned to just two naps a day (8:30 & 12:30), and has been doing that for a couple of months now. She still likes to be in bed by 6:30 pm every night and wakes up at 6:00 am (finally sleeping through the night!)

Nyah’s current favorite foods are blueberries, scrambled eggs, grape tomatoes, avocado, sautéed mushrooms, and pasta. She is such a messy eater and insists on feeding herself, but it’s so fun to see her enjoying her food!

Nyah loves music just as much as her big brother! We all enjoy going to music class together, and it’s so fun to see her interact with the older kids and play all of the instruments! She can even play the flute! Her favorite songs are currently The Wheels on the Bus, If You’re Happy & You Know It, and the Itsy Bitsy Spider.

11 month update

She is using some signs and starting to say a few words! She can sign “all done” and “more”. Her first word was “Dada” and now says thank you, done, down, ball, jump, and Bubba (Liam).

One of her favorite things is escaping out the front or back door as soon as the door opens! She loves to go up & down our front step and climb in and out of Liam’s blue car. Nyah also loves to walk holding onto your fingers, but isn’t quite ready for us to let go. If she thinks you’re going to trick her into walking, she’ll just sit down. She is smart, and opinionated! I’m excited to see if she’ll walk before her first birthday!

11 month update

I love this little girl & her quirky sense of humor so much! She has the funniest fake laugh, and loves playing “getcha” with Liam, which is essentially a game where Liam lays his head in her lap and she pulls his hair! Haha I love watching them play together more these days. The other night when I was putting Liam to bed I asked him what makes him happy…he said, “playing with Nyah makes me happy.” Hearing that melted my heart! They have no idea how much they will grow to mean to each other in the coming years!

I am feeling so lucky to be this sweet girls mama and feeling super emotional about her turning one! I feel like time is going by way too quickly and am just trying to soak in the moments.

 

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Beach Bound Summer Faves

You guys, I am getting so excited for summer, and just thinking about our trip to Cabo next month makes me so happy! We used to go to Mexico so much when Liam was younger, and I’ve been missing it! We took a day trip to Rosarito this past weekend, and it was so much fun!  It was Nyah’s first trip, and she loved it! She loved digging in the sand and was a big fan of the mariachis at dinner. We visited our favorite restaurant for brunch, did some shopping at the market, and spent some time at the beach. The kids got some new maracas, an accordion (ha!), and I found Nyah a couple of the cutest dresses!

With summer and our trip to Cabo right around the corner, I thought it would be fun to share some of my current beach faves!

1. I’ve been dying over high-waisted swimsuits lately and finally decided to order one. Love this (and pretty much every) swimsuit from Albion Fit! Can’t wait to wear this to the beach this summer!

2. I had a gold pair of Tory Burch sandals that I wore into the ground, and received these in beige for my birthday. I LOVE them!
tory burch sandals

3. I’m trying to grow my years of over-plucked eyebrows out & using this bad boy to help! Boy Brow in brown.

4. Obsessed with this print <3 & Rylee + Cru is having their mid-season sale!

5. Tiny swimsuits – love the pineapples and succulents!

6. Round Sunglasses – I love fun sunglasses & this seasons round style is perfection!

7. This tank from Anthro <3

Happy summer! XO

Life With Two Lately

Life has definitely not been boring lately!

I haven’t done an update on life as a mother of two yet so here we go, Liam is 2 1/2 and Nyah turned 7 months a couple of weeks ago. Our days are busy and loud…between a 7 month old who has recently found her voice and a big brother who is constantly putting on concerts, playing music school, or mowing the lawn. We also typically have a third musketeer in our group for at least a couple of days a week, so every day is always an adventure!

Liam’s vocabulary has exploded and he is so chatty. He loves telling jokes, making up stories, and always wants to order his own food when we go out to eat. He is also the sweetest little boy loving on “his bebe boo boo” and his friends when they come over. He loves playing with younger children, and it just melts my heart to see him so sweet with them. He also loves playing his guitar, playing doctor, restaurant, fireman, fishing, and lets go to space. His imagination is WILD! It’s so much fun to be a part of.

Nyah is growing so quickly and loves her big brother. I love to see her smile and watch him in amazement. Every day Liam says he and Nyah are best friends forever. I love being able to watch their friendship grow and can’t wait for them to be able to play more together.

A few weeks ago we visited Sunset Cliffs to take some Easter pictures in the wild flowers. We played King of the mountain and chased each other through the wild flowers. It was such a fun time and we got some pretty cute pictures as a bonus. Afterward we had family dinner at Pizza Port and Liam played his first round of arcade games…is it weird to say that I was proud watching him drive that race car so well?! haha

Nyah is wearing 6-12 month clothes, and weighs around 18lbs. She loves her Jumperoo, and rolling around on the floor with her big brother. She is doing great with her sleep now, and takes 3 naps a day (8:30, 12:00, and 3:00) and is in bed by 6:30/7pm every night. At 6 months, Nyah started sitting up on her own and now is able to push herself up on her hands & knees to try to crawl. She is working so hard & gets frustrated after a while when she can’t get going! Soon enough baby girl…

Nyah has also been trying all kinds of new foods in the last few days. Her favorites so far are sweet potatoes, pineapples, and strawberries. She doesn’t mind getting messy as long as it tastes good. I love seeing her messy little foodie face!

I’m so lucky to be their mama. So lucky to have such an amazing husband to do life with.

Spring Cleaning in Just a Day

Have you done your spring cleaning yet?

I’m sure if you’re like me you have your spring cleaning done before Easter, right? Insert hysterical laughter here.

In my life getting the regular housework basics done is a huge achievement. I usually only do a full house clean in the last hour before someone is scheduled to visit. Working full time and cleaning just don’t mix and it’s always mad dash to get everything thrown in closets and swept under the rug. But once or twice a year I take a three day weekend and use one of those days to do my spring cleaning.

It used to take me forever to deep clean the entire house, but over the years I’ve gotten it down to a science. I wanted to share my list with you. Below I have a printable for my…

Spring Cleaning in Just a Day Plan:

spring cleaning

Speed cleaning so you have more time to spend with your family.

A good guide is for deep cleaning is once in the spring and once in late fall. Weekly I stick to a quick vacuuming, wiping down the counters, dishes and laundry for the most part. A quick note most of my cleaning is done with vinegar based cleaners including washing the wall. My quick formula for wiping down the walls is gallon of hot water to with room for a cup of vinegar.  Then I use a old floor swiffer with a microfiber cloth that has the solution that has been rung out attached. It allows for a much faster wall wash and you can get right up to the ceiling (short girl friendly). Even if I can’t paint, or have fancy things in your home a good cleaning can make everything feel fresh and new again.

I hope this checklist helps you get everything done quickly so there is time for the more important things, like family.

Theresa

Easter Basket Ideas for Babies & Toddlers

This will be our first Easter as a family of four! I am so excited to celebrate with my little family, and we’ve already started doing some super fun Easter crafts. Don’t you just love Pinterest?!

We’ll be celebrating by going to Easter Brunch as a family at the Catamaran and taking part in the Easter egg hunt at our neighborhood recreation center. We did it last year as well, and Liam was too cute for words finding all those little eggs! I can’t wait to chase him around with Nyah in their little Easter outfits!

Needless to say, I’ve started to think of some Easter basket ideas for this year – here are some of my favorites:

easter basket ideas babies toddlers

Nyah (Baby’s First Easter)

Bitsy Ballerina Bunny – This is so appropriate for baby girl’s first Easter! So adorable!
Baby’s Easter Rabbit Mary Jane Flats – How cute are these Mini Melissa Easter Rabbit shoes?!
Carter’s Striped Sateen Dress (0-24 months) – This is the perfect Easter dress! It is so sweet, and I love the colors!
Baby Bling Print Bow Headband – A girl can never have too many bows!
Where Are Baby’s Easter Eggs?: A Lift-the-Flap Book – Nyah loves these baby lift-the-flap books, so this is perfect for her!

Liam (2 years old)

Usborne Jungle Magic Painting Book – I just hosted an Usborne book party & picked up several goodies for the kiddos. I set this one aside specifically for a fun Easter basket addition for my big boy!
Neon Sidewalk Chalk – My boy and I love to draw on the sidewalk in front of the house. His favorite things to draw are hot air balloons, his name, and sailboats. I think he will love these fun bright colors!
Happy Easter, Curious George – Everyone who knows Liam knows that he is obsessed with Curious George, so this book is perfect for him!
Carter’s ‘Chicks Dig Me’ Tee – Too cute! I love this!
ALEX Toys Rub a Dub USA Map in the Tub & Rub a Dub Soup – If you guys don’t know about Alex Toys Rub a Dub bath toys, you need to get on the band wagon – they are awesome! We also have the Water Flutes and the Dirty Dogs! Alex Toys have the most creative & fun bath toys for little ones!

Both of our kids have this Easter basket from Pottery Barn – I love that you can personalize them with different liners & have their names embroidered on them. Such a special gift that they can reuse year after year.

I hope you enjoyed checking out some of my favorite Easter basket ideas. For more ideas, check out our Baby’s First Easter post. What do you put in your little one’s Easter baskets? I’d love some more ideas!

Sleep Training Second Baby | Better Sleep in Less Than 7 Days

Sleep Training Second Baby

sleep training second baby

I’m going to talk about sleep training the second baby. I know this can be a taboo subject, so if you are against sleep training, this post isn’t for you. However, our results show how well our sweet girl responded to the gentle method that we used with frequent comfort checks in the beginning, lengthening them over time. She felt safe, and if you keep reading, you’ll see that sleep training really does work & we have a much calmer, happier girl because of it.

Nyah has been a difficult sleeper pretty much from the start. Since eliminating dairy from my diet, her sleep had gotten better, however she was still taking short naps and recently was waking up more during the middle of the night. I think because her tummy was hurting her she had a hard time settling, and we were helping her by bouncing – but that in turn possibly helped her develop a sleep association to being bounced to sleep (similar to Liam).

Before we had her, we always knew we would do sleep training again, as it worked so well for Liam. I was just nervous about how it would go with another child in the house, Nyah’s more sensitive temperament, and with her still sleeping in our room.

I decided to start sleep training her while she was still sleeping in our room at 5 months (Daddy & I are sleeping on the couch for a few days), and once she is sleeping soundly on her own we’ll work on transitioning her into a shared room with Liam.

Before sleep training, we were still swaddling Nyah using the SwaddleMe and more recently the Halo SleepSack Swaddle. We had tried doing just one arm swaddled, but we couldn’t get her to stay asleep with our old routine. Because we wanted her to be able to self soothe by sucking on her hands or holding her little Jellycat bunny soother, we quit swaddling, and just put her in a Halo SleepSack for warmth.

Before Sleep Training:

  • Nyah would take 4-5 naps a day (exhausting!), 1.5 to 2 hours apart
  • Most naps lasted 40 minutes (one sleep cycle) before she would wake up crying
  • Going down for a nap usually involved quite a bit of shushing and bouncing on the exercise ball to get her to fall asleep. She does take a pacifier and we were swaddling her for naps & night-time sleep. She would usually wake up a couple of times after you had gotten her down, and you would have to go back in and start over.
  • At bedtime, it was the same routine, but it would usually take a full hour to get her to sleep.
  • Night-time sleep varied from about 7-8pm to 6-7am with wake ups at various hours. Her night-time sleep was definitely better than her naps, so I was hoping sleep training would go better at night because of that reason.

The Method:

We followed the Ferber method with comfort checks starting at 5, 10, and 15 minutes the first night (With Nyah I added a 7 minute check between the 5 and 10 minute checks because of her personality. I thought she might do better with shorter intervals in the beginning). These checks increased by 2 minutes every night.

The basic guidelines are:

  1. The 1st comfort check occurs at 5 minutes of moderate to hard crying (light fussing doesn’t count).
  2. If baby quiets and starts up again, the clock starts over at whatever time interval you were on.
  3. The parent comforts for 1-2 minutes (max) with touch and voice to let the baby know they are still there and tell them they are just learning to go to sleep on their own.
  4. If the baby continues to cry after the 1st comfort check, you reset the timer to 10 minutes for the 2nd comfort check, and 15 minutes for the 3rd comfort check. For night-time sleep you continue to do checks every 15 minutes until they fall asleep. If they wake up in the middle of the night, you start again with 5 minutes, and increase accordingly.
  5. For naps, it is very similar, except if baby doesn’t fall asleep within 30-45 minutes, you end the nap and try again within an hour. I did this a bit different with Nyah – if she didn’t fall asleep within an hour, I ended the nap. I did comfort checks every 10 minutes for naps as I felt like the crying would last longer if I went in sooner/more frequently. The first couple of days, if she had a short nap or didn’t nap, I tried keeping her awake until her next nap period in hopes to lengthen her naps and get her on a more consistent schedule.

Our plan was to put Nyah to sleep around 6/6:30pm every night and wake her up in the morning by 7:00am. If she woke anytime between 6:00-7:00am, we were to get up and start our day. Naps were planned for close to 8:30am, 12:00pm, and 3:00pm (give or take).

Here are our results:

Night 1:
6:27pm Put to bed in her Halo SleepSack
She starting crying right away as this was the first time we had never swaddled nor bounced her to sleep
The first night we did checks at 5/7/10/15 minutes
6:33pm 1st Check In (after 5 minutes of crying)
6:40pm 2nd Check In (after 7 minutes of crying)
6:52pm 3rd Check In (after 10 minutes of heavier crying)
7:02pm Quiet (after only 30 minutes and 1 glass of wine!)
9:04pm fussing/crying back to sleep after 10 minutes
9:15pm Quiet
10:23pm crying/fussing off and on
10:45pm 1st Check In (after 5 minutes of crying)
10:55pm 2nd Check In (after 7 minutes of crying)
11:00pm Quiet
11:23pm Fussing for a few minutes & fell back asleep
At this point, I wasn’t ready to entirely night-wean, so I decided if she woke up anytime around/after 1:00am, I would get up and feed her and put her back to bed. 
4:00am She woke crying – I responded really quickly – fed her and put her back in the pack n’ play sleepy, but not entirely asleep.
4:16am Back in bed
4:35am Awake & making noise talking to herself – no crying. She was back to sleep within a few minutes

Day 1:
7:05am Woke her up, as we didn’t want her to sleep later than her usual wake up time or make up lost night hours during the day
8:35am Put her down for a nap in her sleep sack after nursing, story, and singing a song. She started crying as soon as I put her down
8:45am 1st Check (after 10 minutes of fussing/crying)
8:57am Quiet
8:59am Crying off and on for 2 minutes
9:01am Quiet & asleep
9:23am Awake & Crying – nap #1 ended after 22 minutes of sleep
11:52am Down for nap crying off & on
11:55am Quiet (asleep after 3 minutes)
12:20pm Awake & crying (I had been using the baby shusher, and it turned off) – decided to let her try and fall back asleep
12:40-12:56pm Crying off & on
12:56pm Quiet
1:20pm Awake from nap #2 – about 40-50 minutes of sleep total
3:06pm Down for nap
3:06 – 3:13pm Fussing and mild crying
3:14pm Quiet
3:50pm Awake

Night 2:
6:04pm Put to bed – mild crying
6:16pm Quiet (asleep after 12 minutes)
6:52pm Hear Nyah wake up and she fusses a couple times then back to sleep
7:00pm – 8:00pm Nyah seemed to have a hard time falling asleep, she never cried was just fussing and falling asleep again. She didn’t eat much before I put her to bed at 6:00, so I thought I would go in and feed her to see if she was hungry. She was, and went right to sleep afterward.
8:24pm Fed her & put her down awake in the crib
8:30pm Asleep
1:23am Nyah woke up – I went in to feed her as it was after 1am
1:35am Back in bed awake – fell asleep with no crying
5:30am Liam woke up and went in our room (forgetting that Mommy & Daddy weren’t in there). Nyah woke up, so I went in to feed her because I felt bad that Liam was the one that woke her. I put her down awake, and she fell back asleep on her own with no crying.

Day 2:
6:48am Awake
8:35am Down for nap – fussing
8:40am Asleep – within 5 minutes no crying
9:35am Awake
11:40am Down for nap – crying before I put her down (I tried reading her a story and singing, but it was like she was saying just put me down already.)
11:47am Fell asleep within 7 minutes
12:28pm Awake
2:36pm She had a hard time staying awake this afternoon – we did a lot of entertaining and changing activities, so didn’t quite make it to 3pm. I fed her before I put her down and then put her in her SleepSack and put her in bed.
2:40pm Asleep
3:14pm Awake

Night 3:
6:02pm Down to bed after bath, story, nursing – no crying or fussing
6:40pm Woke & cried a couple minutes before falling back asleep
7:44pm Woke up again
7:50pm Asleep
9:00pm Woke up – went in to feed her thinking she may be hungry
9:14pm Back to bed
1:00am Woke up – went in to feed her and put her back to bed
5:00am Woke up – tried letting her fall back asleep. Didn’t work
5:45am Fed her & put her back in bed

Day 3:
6:57am Awake
8:29am Down for nap – fussing/crying
8:44am Quiet
9:15am Awake & crying
11:09am Down for nap
11:13am Quiet
11:55am Awake
2:55pm Down for nap – asleep within 1 minute
3:27pm Making noise – gave her 20 minutes to fall back asleep
3:44pm Quiet/fussing – fell back asleep at 3:50pm
4:13pm Awake
5:45pm Fell asleep in the car on the way home from the park for a few minutes

Night 4:
6:30pm Put to bed – after bath & nursing – no crying – fell asleep a few minutes later
7:30pm Woke up & fell back asleep a few minutes later
4:00am Woke up – went in to feed her & put her back in bed

Day 4:
7:00am Awake
8:25am Down for a nap – asleep a few minutes later
9:10am Woke up – tried letting her fall back asleep for 20 mins., then went in to get her
11:49am Down for nap
11:52am Asleep
12:23pm Woke up & fell back to sleep within 10 minutes
1:30pm Awake
3:00pm Down for nap
3:12pm Asleep
3:42pm Awake

Night 5:
6:10pm Put to bed after bath, story, & nursing
6:19pm Sleeping
1:23am Awoke crying – fed her
1:35am Back in bed awake – fell asleep within a few minutes
5:30am Liam woke up and woke Nyah up by going into our room (he forgot Mommy and Daddy were sleeping on the couch) – I went in and fed her and put her back to bed

Day 5:
7:18am Awake
8:51am Down for a nap
9:00am Sleeping
9:29am Crying off & on – couldn’t fall back asleep
10:05am Got her up
11:36am Down for nap after swim & nursing
12:07pm Woke up
12:23pm Fell back to sleep
1:08pm Awake
3:13pm Down for nap
3:20pm Asleep
4:00pm Awake

Night 6:
6:25pm Down to sleep after bath & nursing – fell asleep within a few minutes
9:30pm Woke up & fed her
1:30am Woke up & fed her

Day 6:
6:00am Awake
8:00am Down for a nap – no crying
8:10am Sleeping
8:41am Woke up – didn’t fall back to sleep after leaving her for 20 mins
11:37am Down for nap – fell asleep in car, nursed & put her into bed
11:43am Asleep
12:15pm – 12:40pm Awake in Pack n’ Play
12:40pm Back to sleep
2:16pm Down for nap
4:00pm Awake

Night 7:
6:05pm Put to bed
6:27pm Asleep
7:04pm Woke up and fell back to sleep 13 minutes later
I forgot to write down when she woke to eat in the middle of the night, but she’s been waking in a 4hr pattern – around 9:30pm, 1:30pm, and 5:30am.

Day 7:
6:30am Awake
8:06am Down for a nap
8:15am Asleep
8:45am Woke & fell back asleep within 10 minutes
9:50am Awake
11:49am Down for nap – asleep within 3 minutes
12:32pm Woke up & fell back to sleep within 20 minutes (light crying off & on)
2:00pm Woke up
4:09pm Down for nap
5:00pm Awake
6:36pm In bed 🙂

I am SO glad we decided to do sleep training with Nyah at this age. I almost waited longer, but was starting to get frustrated with trying to get her back to sleep in the middle of the night, and I knew it was time. The first night was hard, but she really surprised me! This little girl is amazing and she learned so quickly!

If you’re curious how Liam’s sleep training went at the same age, you can visit that post here.

Nyah’s sleep improved so quickly, and it continues to get better. She typically falls asleep on her own within 5 minutes or less. She no longer cries all the way home in the car from our adventures – if she is sleepy, she closes her eyes and goes to sleep. Since she is doing so well with falling asleep on her own, I also decided to start working on extending her naps. We are aiming for 1 1/2 hours for her first two naps, and the final nap can be a shorter nap. If Nyah wakes up after less than 1 hour of sleep, I leave her in her pack n’ play for a full hour, then go get her if she has not fallen  back to sleep (ie. if she falls asleep for her nap at 12:15pm, I don’t go in and get her until 1:15pm if she wakes up). I’ve only had to do this once so far – she usually falls back to sleep within 10-15 minutes. I’m going to continue doing this in hopes to lengthen her naps and help her work on transitioning straight into her next sleep cycle without waking herself up.

Please do your own research before deciding what sleep training method is best for your family.If you have any questions, or need some encouragement, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. After sleep training two swing-addicted bouncy babies, I am so glad that I now have two amazing sleepers!

Some things that were helpful during sleep training:

4 Month Update | Nyah Rose

Oh my goodness, how is my baby girl FIVE months old already?! It’s time to share her 4 month update! This past month has been full of new discoveries for our sweet girl. She rolled over for the first time at around 4 1/2 months and has managed to turn herself around in circles. She also started swim lessons this last week. I am flooded with all the typical mom emotions, like where has the time gone and I can’t believe that the next time I’ll be writing one of these updates she will already be half-way to her first birthday! But mostly, I am super happy. Nyah is such a sweetie, her smiles and giggles are the cutest, and we are so blessed to have her as a part of our little family.

4 month update

Four things about her, for her 4 month update:

  1. She is wearing 6 month clothes and weighs almost 19 lbs (just a little less than Liam at this age)
  2. She loves playing with toys and thinks her big brother is SO funny – I love catching her smiling at him.
  3. Her favorite song is Row, Row, Row Your Boat, and a couple of her favorite toys this month are her octopus and this activity gym (our big boy loves it too!)
  4. She starts squealing when she’s tired – it just continues to get louder and louder. It’s a quirk that I’ve become a little fond of…kind of annoying, but cute at the same time. Ha!

4 month update

4 Month Milestones:

  • Grabs toys and brings them to her mouth
  • Rolls from her back to her tummy
  • Spins herself around in a circle when on her tummy
  • Reaches for her feet
  • Loves to look at herself in the mirror
  • Very active and entertains herself under her play mat and loves sitting and playing in this activity seat

We are also starting to read more books together, so I thought it would be fun to host an online Usborne book party starting on 2/22 to introduce new books to Nyah and add to our library. If you’re new to Usborne, these books are amazing…educational and fun! If you’re interested in joining, leave a comment or message me on Facebook and I will send you an invite. Here’s a link to our Usborne Wishlist if you’re interested in checking it out. Hope you can join us & find some new favorites for your little people!

Free Art Printable – Wherever You Are Be All There

I ran across this quote the other day and it really spoke to me. Another mom had posted it on Instagram and it was exactly what I needed to hear in that very moment.

“Wherever you are, be all there.” – Jim Elliot

I want to remind myself of this in the hard moments…when my baby is having a hard time falling asleep, when my toddler is acting out, and when my house is a total mess. I want to remember to cherish even the hard moments – to be in the moment and love on my babies in this beautiful mess.

I thought many of you mamas (and daddies) could relate to this feeling, when we’re distracted by work, or now when so many of us are overwhelmed with the state of our country. So, I created this free art printable for your home.

I hope it blesses your life and serves as a reminder to treasure life’s little moments. The Wherever You Are Be All There Printable is completely free for your personal use.

Free Art Printable: Wherever You Are Be All There

free art printable wherever you are be all there

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Stay tuned for new free printables in the coming months. You may also be interested in our other printables here.

How to Deal With Mommy Guilt When Baby #2 Arrives

how to deal with mommy guilt

I want to be real with you all for a minute and talk about how to deal with mommy guilt once baby #2 arrives. I dealt with some major mommy guilt when Nyah was born, especially after all of our company left. Liam is my world, and our lives revolved around him 24/7 for two years. We knew we wanted another baby, but we were all a little rocked by Nyah’s arrival, especially in dealing with her unknown milk allergy and colic-like symptoms for the first 2-3 months of her life.

There were plenty of nights where I just sat in the chair in Liam’s room during story-time and cried. I felt like I was missing out on my sweet boy because I was taking care of a screaming, crying baby all day long. I was sad, and Liam was sad too. Our relationship changed, he latched on to Daddy more, and that was hard for me.

Over the past four months, things have gotten much better. We’ve found our rhythm, and we are dancing together (for the most part). Yes, there are still days when there are tantrums, hitting, too many YouTube videos, and I lose my patience. I am not perfect.

I know so many of my friends are expecting their second baby any day now, or in the near future, and I wanted to share my thoughts on how to deal with mommy guilt.

How to Deal With Mommy Guilt:

1. Remind yourself of the incredible gift you are giving your child – a sibling – a best friend for life. Even though it seems hard in the moment, and your first-born may show signs of jealously or difficulty adjusting, in the long run they will love their brother or sister so much!

2. Repeat: My children are loved. Give yourself grace. Despite what you may be feeling, you are only one person and you can only do so much. Love on your children the best you can in the moment – they know you love them.

3. Breathe. Think about what you are grateful for. I am grateful that I am able to stay home with both of my babies – there are days where it is so hard & I second guess myself – but I know that it’s what is best for our family.

4. Take some time to yourself. This is really important, and something that I personally need to work on. As moms, we tend to put ourselves last, and lose ourselves somewhere between changing diapers and doing dishes. Take time out every week to do something for yourself so you don’t end up so completely worn out.

5. Not everyday needs to be perfect. When it was just Liam, we went on so many adventures: zoo trips, story-times, aquarium, park playdates, etc. We were always on the go and I know that Liam loved it! Now we are a family of 4, and Nyah is still napping every 1 – 1 1/2 hours, some days we don’t leave the house, and that’s ok. We’ve learned to be creative. We play with PlayDoh, pretend we are firemen, make a zoo with all of his animals, have tea parties, make crafts, etc. Some days I feel like an amazing mom, and some days I’m just a good-enough mom. And that’s fine.


Valentine’s Day Favorites 2017 | 5 Things We Love

valentines day favorites 2017

ONE // Minted Complete Love Custom Photo Art – 20% off through 1/30 CODE: BEMINE
I saw this idea on Pinterest and saved it for myself, but wanted to share it with you as well! I think it would be such a sweet gift for a Daddy from his littles for the office or at home.

TWO // Ily Couture’s Valentine’s Day Collection – 15% off Ily Couture Valentine’s Day Collection. Use promo code: HEARTILY
I love Ily Couture – one of my favorite tees is from there – “Mom Life is the Best Life” There’s some super cute stuff in their Valentine’s Day Collection, including the Heart Breaker hoodie below.

THREE // Valentine’s Day Mini Style

Love Dress
Heart Flats

Heart Crane Pullover

FOUR // Custom Cutting Board – 15% off all Personalized Cutting Boards through 2/14. Use Promo Code: HEART
I love this idea for a Valentine’s Day gift! A custom cutting board with where you met or got married. The hubs and I had a custom cutting board made with our wedding invitation design on it, and we have it displayed in our kitchen. I love it!

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FIVE // Essie Gel Couture Nail Polish
As a mom of two, I don’t get to the nail salon much anymore. I received this polish as a gift for Christmas, and I love it! I’m not one to paint my fingernails usually, as it ends up chipping off in a couple of days, but this stays on for 1-2 weeks! No gel lamp required.